Relationship Coaching

For those who crave deeper connection, emotional maturity, and lasting transformation

Are you longing for something more in your relationship?

Or maybe you are experiencing growing pains in your intimate relationship?

Perhaps the intimacy has faded, and you're feeling more like housemates than partners.
Maybe you're newly single after divorce, cautious but hopeful, wanting to break old patterns before stepping into something new. Or you simply sense — deep in your bones — that there’s more available in love, even if you can’t yet name what that is.

Disconnection in our closest relationships can leave us feeling untethered in the world. But this discomfort is often the invitation, not the problem.

Why Relationships Trigger us

In intimate relationships, we often meet the parts of ourselves we’ve never truly faced. We attract our “unfinished business,” as therapist Dianne Poole Heller puts it, people who unknowingly activate the very wounds we are here to heal.

This isn’t failure. It’s opportunity.

Through my work, I help individuals explore the roots of these relational patterns — from attachment wounds to nervous system responses — and support them in creating meaningful repair, clearer boundaries, and stronger emotional resilience.

I believe relationships can be the greatest containers for personal growth and that healthy relationships are the cornerstone of a happy life. What I find most interesting when you talk to the older people in society is, it is not their achievements at work they reminisce about, it is the people who have touched them and made them feel heard. Our relationship imprinting comes from our primary caregivers and many of us experience our first relationship challenges in the first 18 months of our lives, which childhood development experts call the attachment stage of our lives. Having a close bond with a caregiver at this stage is essential for us to feel a sense of safety and connection in the world.

Partnerships are very challenging. We confront everything about ourselves in relationships. All of our unresolved childhood trauma and wounding will come up and our relationship skills will be tested. We are forced to face everything that is unloved and unprocessed in our psyche, our nervous system and our physical body.

I understand the push-pull of independence vs. connection in relationships and how we can feel torn by the tension of that. I help people navigate relational repair, trust, and building fair agreements in relationships.

This Work Is For You If:

• You're feeling stuck, lost, or emotionally alone in your relationship

• You’re repeating painful dynamics you promised yourself you'd outgrow

• You want to date more consciously after a breakup or divorce

• You're ready to understand yourself more deeply and love more fully

• You’re committed to doing the inner work — not just for your relationship, but for your own evolution

What you will experience

When you invest in your personal growth and healing in the container of a relationship, you will find it is a path to emotional maturity and for some people, spiritual growth. The benefits are:

• Learn to feel safe in your body, so you can access clarity and confidence in relationships and learn how to give and receive in relationship;

• You will learn all about yourself, you will connect to your deep sense of inner knowing, you will be able to hold space for your partner and the others. This positively impacts all the relationships in your life;

• You will gain deep insight into your early relationship imprinting, how this impacts on how you show up in relationships (both at home, at work and with friends) and you will re-pattern this imprint so it serves you better in all your adult relationships;

• You will learn to embrace challenge, conflict and adversity and learn how to repair after a rupture;

• You intimacy will improve as you learn to talk more openly and truthfully with your partner about your feelings and what you desire;

• You learn to be a team, a partnership, to collaborate together and learn to be open and honest with each other which leads to a deep and strong connection with each other.

The foundation for healthy relationships is intimacy and this starts with your ability to communicate your own inner experience to those closest to you. You will learn to be clear about your desires and aware of your own boundaries; to know what a YES and NO feels like in your body. To be able to say what you need, when you want it, when you need it and how you need it or if you didn’t want it. When we get clear on this, on your desires in life, you can communicate it clearly with your partner, you will develop the confidence to do all of this with your partner.

My Approach

I work somatically — using a bodymind approach grounded in nervous system awareness, attachment theory, and trauma-informed care. Our sessions create space for you to slow down, attune to your body’s messages, and explore what’s ready to heal. As you learn to stay present with your sensations and emotions, your capacity for connection grows.

From this grounded place, lasting change becomes possible — not just in your romantic relationships, but in every relationship you hold.

What Clients are saying

“Taking the step to working with Kellie was a game changer for me. I had just come out of a situation in my relationship, which had left me questioning myself and this negatively impacted my self-confidence.

I realised that there was unhealed trauma from my past which was holding me back, I knew I needed to “break” the pattern, but didn’t know how to go about it. 

Working with Kellie was eye opening, challenging and pivotal in spear heading the change I needed in my life. I always felt safe and supported in all my sessions. Kellie’s experience and ability to read the situation allowed me to connect with her. 

The somatic and breathing exercises from our sessions, have now become second nature to me. I catch myself at moments through the days realising, that without knowing it, I had just worked through a difficult situation using the skills I’d learnt. I’m more settled and content in my personal life and my work interactions have improved immensely”. 

“I loved Kellie's neutrality, she asked really intimate questions in a matter of fact way that meant I could share things I would not talk about with any other person (including my partner)”.

How is coaching different from therapy? How does it work?

I am a somatic coach so we work with the body and the mind at the same time. This means my approach is an experience first approach. This means we don’t just talk about things, we get to actually feel them, live them, practice them and make them your new reality.

Unlike other types of therapy that only work with the mind, we will go through a unique, leading edge experience that is founded in neuroscience, where we work towards your desires, discover what is blocking you and then go through practices together. I create bespoke home-plays for you (guided practices to do at home) to help you grow, transform and return to your natural wholeness and a new level of confidence, self awareness and self knowledge. So you will walk away with your own toolkit to help you regulate your nervous system, communicate better with the people in your life and to be with whatever life throws your way.

Somatic Coaching also helps us to connect with our inner child’s unmet needs and learn how to listen to when that comes up in our body (often we call it a trigger) and to learn how to soothe ourselves in the moment so that we are not projecting it onto our partners. All of this is wound into our neurobiology, so no amount of work we do in our logical part of our brain, whether it be talk therapy or mindset work, will eliminate this reactivity because it sits in the lower part of our brain that drives our autonomic nervous system. Our autonomic nervous system is our body’s defence system and it works 3-4 times faster than our logical brain; it has to, to keep us safe and alive. So in somatic coaching we work at the level of the nervous system to first create safety, and then to be able to work with the triggers, resolve them and then re-pattern the behaviour.

When you work with me in a Relationship Coaching container, you will learn many tools to down regulate your nervous system when you are activated, and how to bring yourself to a place of connection and curiosity with those around you. When you can come to this place in your body, to be with your inner experience, you can handle other people’s emotions, reactions and words with grace and confidence, and you can listen better and show compassion for their experience of the world. This keeps you connected with everyone in your life, helps you to appreciate the diverse needs of others and allows you to feel more empowered in your own body.

Most importantly it helps you get the love, sex and relationship that you want.

If you would like to to do this work, the first step is to book a complimentary clarity call with me, so we can talk about your needs and what you want to work on. Then we can see if we are a good match to work together.

Do I work with individuals and couples?

I do work with both individuals and couples. However at the moment I am only working with individuals, my couples practice is full.

If you are interested to do couples work you can put your name on my waitlist.

Logistics and Pricing

I offer a 12 session coaching program that you can do over 4 or 6 months. We work together online via zoom and I work with people from all over the world. You can choose do either two or three sessions a month and we have to be practical around the realities of life and interruptions like illness, parenting demands and holidays. If you have any more questions please look at my Coaching FAQs or you can ask me directly in the clarity call.

Each coaching session is 90 minutes long. Some people need a little bit more time to integrate and some people need more frequent sessions. The pricing for coaching program depends on how many sessions a month you choose to do. For two sessions a month it is AU$880 monthly. For three sessions it is AU$1320 a monthly. There is a 5% discount if you choose to pay the full fee for 12 sessions up front.

If you want to keep going after our initial 12 session program, you can do that.

“If there was any one single person you could rely on to feel safe and open, to communicate effectively with and for, then Kellie is that person. I have thoroughly loved exploring tantra. I have felt more engaged and open to how I feel, what I want and how that can translate to my partner. Kellie keeps the vibe going and does so with a gentleness and ease that clearly translates not only a love for what she does but her belief in herself. She is exceptional to work with”!

Do you still have questions. Check out the Coaching FAQs.