Relationship Coaching

For those who crave deeper connection, emotional maturity and personal growth - individuals and couples.

Are you longing for something more in your relationship?

Or maybe you are experiencing growing pains in your intimate relationship?

Perhaps the intimacy has faded, and you're feeling more like housemates than partners.
Maybe you're newly single after divorce, cautious but hopeful, wanting to break old patterns before stepping into something new. Or you simply sense — deep in your bones — that there’s more available in love, even if you can’t yet name what that is.

Disconnection in our closest relationships can leave us feeling untethered in the world. But this discomfort is often the invitation, not the problem.

Why Relationships Trigger Us

In intimate relationships, we often meet the parts of ourselves we’ve never truly faced. We attract our “unfinished business,” as therapist Dianne Poole Heller puts it, people who unknowingly activate the very wounds we are here to heal.

Rather than seeing this as a failure, it actually is an opportunity to grow. One of the most humbling things about relationships is that they show us - often with profound accuracy - what we are capable of relationally.

Relationships are challenging and can be hard and there are skills we need to cultivate mature adult relationships. Many of us cannot tell the truth to our partners without weaponising it, we cannot make a request without resentment leaking through into the conversation, we cannot stay in our body when stakes are high and be with our anger during a relational conflict, we cannot influence a relationship without trying to manage, manipulate, control or contort the situation.

These are all skills we need to learn.

Through my work, I help individuals explore the roots of these relational patterns — from attachment wounds to nervous system responses — and support them in creating meaningful repair, clearer boundaries, and stronger emotional resilience.

I believe relationships can be the greatest containers for personal growth and that healthy relationships are the cornerstone of a happy life. What I find most interesting when you talk to the older people in society is, it is not their achievements at work they reminisce about, it is the people who have touched them and made them feel heard. Our relationship imprinting comes from our primary caregivers and many of us experience our first relationship challenges in the first 18 months of our lives, which childhood development experts call the attachment stage of our lives. Having a close bond with a caregiver at this stage is essential for us to feel a sense of safety and connection in the world.

The relationship we are in is always changing

As we age and move through different life transitions, the rhythm of our desire changes. We have to relearn our own bodies, again and again, sometimes just as we're getting used to who we were. Now imagine doing that alongside a partner who is going through the exact same thing, at the exact same time. Two nervous systems, two bodies, both changing, both having to find a new language for what they want and need. This isn't something that goes wrong in a relationship; it's something every long relationship eventually has to work with.

Life moves in beginnings, middles and ends, and so do we. Across a relationship, you are not married to one static person; you are married to many different versions of the same person, one for each season of life. This takes real intentionality. Each time your partner changes, and each time you do, there is a coming apart and a coming back together, a relearning of who this person is now in every aspect of our being. That is not a sign something has gone wrong in the relationship; it's the ongoing work of staying in it.

This is the work — relearning each other's bodies, meeting each new version of one another, held in a holistic view of who you both are.

Partnerships are very challenging. We confront everything about ourselves in relationships. All of our unresolved childhood trauma and wounding will come up and our relationship skills will be tested. We are forced to face everything that is unloved, ignored and unprocessed in our psyche, our nervous system and our physical body.

I understand the push-pull of independence vs. connection in relationships and how we can feel torn by the tension of that. I help people navigate relational repair, trust, and building fair agreements in relationships.

This Work Is For You If:

• You're feeling stuck, lost, or emotionally alone in your relationship

• You’re repeating painful dynamics you promised yourself you'd outgrow,

• You want to date more consciously after a breakup or divorce,

• You're ready to understand yourself more deeply and love more fully,

• You’re committed to doing the inner work — not just for your relationship, but for your own evolution,

• You are a couple who feel like you are ‘ships in the night’, living together but not connecting and it is impacting on your sexual intimacy,

• You are a couple who cannot communicate well, and be open and vulnerable with each other, and one or both of you feel lonely in your relationship.

What you will experience

When you invest in your personal growth and healing in the container of a relationship, you will find it is a path to emotional maturity and for some people, spiritual growth. The benefits are:

• Learn to feel safe in your body, so you can access clarity and confidence in relationships and learn how to give and receive in relationship;

• You will learn all about yourself, you will connect to your deep sense of inner knowing, you will be able to hold space for your partner and the others. This positively impacts all the relationships in your life;

• You will gain deep insight into your early relationship imprinting, how this impacts on how you show up in relationships (both at home, at work and with friends) and you will re-pattern this imprint so it serves you better in all your adult relationships;

• You will learn to embrace challenge, conflict and adversity and learn how to repair after a rupture;

• You intimacy will improve as you learn to talk more openly and truthfully with your partner about your feelings and what you desire;

• You will come to know your own inner seasons, your arousal patterns and your erotic blueprint; building the capacity for a conscious relationship, one where you can witness and hold space each other's changes and hold space, rather than project old hurt onto what's new

• You learn to be a team, a partnership, to collaborate together and learn to be open and honest with each other which leads to enhanced intimacy and a deeper and stronger connection with each other.

The foundation for healthy relationships is intimacy and this starts with your ability to communicate your own inner experience to those closest to you. You will learn to be clear about your desires and aware of your own boundaries; to know what a YES and NO feels like in your body. To be able to say what you need, when you want it, when you need it and how you need it or if you didn’t want it. When we get clear on this, on your desires in life, you can communicate it clearly with your partner, you will develop the confidence to do all of this with your partner.

My Approach

I work somatically — using a bodymind approach grounded in nervous system awareness, attachment theory, and trauma-informed care. My work weaves ancient eastern traditions — Taoism, sacred sexuality and Tantra — with the latest science on adult development, systems theory, modern sexuality and the neurobiology of trauma healing. This gives us a holistic lens: we're not just looking at you as an individual, but at the systems — family, cultural, relational — that shaped how you show up in love.

Our sessions create space for you to slow down, attune to your body's messages, and explore what's ready to heal. As you learn to stay present with your sensations and emotions, your capacity for connection grows.

From this grounded place, lasting change becomes possible — not just in your romantic relationships, but in every relationship you hold.

What Clients are saying

“Taking the step to working with Kellie was a game changer for me. I had just come out of a situation in my relationship, which had left me questioning myself and this negatively impacted my self-confidence.

I realised that there was unhealed trauma from my past which was holding me back, I knew I needed to “break” the pattern, but didn’t know how to go about it. 

Working with Kellie was eye opening, challenging and pivotal in spear heading the change I needed in my life. I always felt safe and supported in all my sessions. Kellie’s experience and ability to read the situation allowed me to connect with her. 

The somatic and breathing exercises from our sessions, have now become second nature to me. I catch myself at moments through the days realising, that without knowing it, I had just worked through a difficult situation using the skills I’d learnt. I’m more settled and content in my personal life and my work interactions have improved immensely”. 

“I loved Kellie's neutrality, she asked really intimate questions in a matter of fact way that meant I could share things I would not talk about with any other person (including my partner)”.

How is somatic coaching different from therapy? How does it work?

I am a somatic coach, so we work with the body and the mind at the same time. This means my approach is experience-first; we don't just talk about things, we get to actually feel them, live them, practice them and make them your new reality.

Unlike other types of therapy that only work with the mind, we go through a unique, leading-edge process founded in neuroscience, where we work towards your desires, discover what is blocking you and then move through practices together. I create bespoke home-plays for you (guided practices to do at home) to help you grow, transform and return to your natural wholeness, with a new level of confidence, self-awareness and self-knowledge. You will walk away with your own toolkit to help you regulate your nervous system, communicate better with the people in your life and be with whatever life throws your way.

Somatic coaching also helps us connect with our inner child's unmet needs, learn to listen for when that comes up in our body (often we call it a trigger), and soothe ourselves in the moment so we are not projecting it onto our partners. All of this is woven into our neurobiology, so no amount of work in the logical part of our brain, whether it's talk therapy or mindset work, will eliminate this reactivity; it sits in the lower part of our brain that drives our autonomic nervous system. Our autonomic nervous system is our body's defence system, and it works three to four times faster than our logical brain; it has to, in order to keep us safe and alive. So in somatic coaching, we work at the level of the nervous system: first to create safety, then to work with the triggers, resolve them and re-pattern the behaviour.

When you work with me in a Relationship Coaching container, you will learn many tools to down-regulate your nervous system when you are activated, and how to bring yourself to a place of connection and curiosity with those around you. When you can come to this place in your body, to be with your inner experience, you can meet other people's emotions, reactions and words with grace and confidence, and listen better and show compassion for their experience of the world. This keeps you connected with everyone in your life, helps you appreciate the diverse needs of others and allows you to feel more empowered in your own body.

Most importantly, it helps you build the relationship, intimacy and connection you want.

I am a certified VITA™ Sexuality, Love and Relationships coach. VITA™ coaches believe sexuality is sacred, beautiful, powerful and completely natural. Humans are sensual beings; however, we can carry layers of conditioning and habituated behaviour that overwhelm our natural, authentic sexual nature. As a certified relationship coach in Australia, working with clients all over the globe, my goal is to help you release these blockages and contractions, so you can step into the love, sex and relationship you want.

If you would like to do this work, the first step is to book a complimentary discovery call with me, so we can talk about your needs and what you want to work on. Then we can see if we are a good match to work together.

Do I work with individuals and couples?

I do work with both individuals and couples. With couples, I can do a mix of individual coaching sessions combined with sessions together.

“If there was any one single person you could rely on to feel safe and open, to communicate effectively with and for, then Kellie is that person. I have thoroughly loved exploring tantra. I have felt more engaged and open to how I feel, what I want and how that can translate to my partner. Kellie keeps the vibe going and does so with a gentleness and ease that clearly translates not only a love for what she does but her belief in herself. She is exceptional to work with”!

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